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The Book of Living
Юрий Белк
"The Book of Living" by Yuri Belk offers the reader a unique look at the age-old questions related to the purpose and meaning of human existence.
Using metaphors, parables, and real-life stories, the author expertly reveals complex concepts in an accessible and inspiring way.
The reader will travel through the pages, discovering not only theory, but also practical tips for achieving harmony with themselves and the world around them.
Belk shows how through mindfulness and inner development, you can achieve genuine happiness and find joy in everyday moments.
Special attention is paid to the process of formation of a person, his personal and spiritual growth.
Belk discusses the importance of self-awareness, personal responsibility, and the constant pursuit of excellence. The book offers more questions than answers to work on yourself, helping the reader to form a conscious attitude to life, find your vocation and achieve inner peace.

Юрий Белк
The Book of Living

Appeal to the reader
Dear reader, if you have opened this page, then you are concerned about your present, your future, and perhaps even your past. On the pages of this book, we will try to understand the problems and paradoxes of life that lead to problems in our lives. You don't have to count me among the aliens, that writers are some mysterious creatures, we are just like everyone else, personally I am, and my feet touch the ground when I walk.
This will not be a book about successful success, and it is impossible, you will not be able to find answers to your questions, and you may even get a lot of new questions, the answers to which you will have to look elsewhere or first of all within yourself.
Andinformation is food that needs to be digested, and sometimes it is difficult to digest, and sometimes indigestible, then information poisoning occurs. You will have a lot of questions and no answers, these facts can make you sad or,even worse, with more sad events.
If you are not sure that you need this book, it is better not to read further, close it and look for other authors.
A book can be made quite thick, but everyone is in a hurry, not everyone has time to read thick books, in fact, to create too.
In this case, a small number of pages has its own separate metaphysical meaning.
Time, which no one has in abundance, time is the only currency of all times and peoples. But it can only be spent, it can't be returned, and the ticket burns out after payment.

What for?
Thispart of the book is included in the introductory section, so you can still change your mind to buy the book. I have a few books that are available for free, but a person who doesn't want to read won't read them anyway. Therefore, I rejected this idea inthe future. In addition, what is received for free is not appreciated and, rather, will be read less carefully, so all the effect of the magic of books disappears.
People should eventually share their knowledge, and that's what I do. The way a person differs fromthe ruminants is that they can pass on their experience to the previous generation.
From this point of view, this book is more intended for young people, but if older people read it, I will only be happy. They will be able to compare their thoughts and experiences with another person.

How do I read this book?
Take your time, read it, think about it, work on it, then read it again. Most people read books in a stream, but my opinion is that you should do it slowly, if necessary, take notes.
For reading fiction, of course, in my opinion, you do not need notes, it is still entertainment, although, on the other hand, some novels can provide more information than any other historical documents.
We, the majority, think that it is enough to know the dates of important events in the history of mankind, but how people lived at that time, what their habits were at that time, what they thought and dreamed about-we do not know at all.
You can fantasize about what our descendants will write about our era in hundreds or thousands of years. Will they learn about their habits, such as sending memes of hundreds of them on social networks to each other? But this is an important indicator of the maturityof a society, or rather, the level of its development. We don't need to take these points personally, although as we continue to read this book, we may be able to look in the mirror and see ourselves for who we are.
The task of a writer is to talk about it, a writer is not a chocolate bar, he should not be liked by everyone and in everything. So when they say a good book or a good writer, I don't understand what people mean, what criteria are applied. Is it even possible to be goodwhen the world is so complicated and the vices of society are trying to change us in different directions?
The writer, if he begins to please the public, then it is possible to reach the vulgarity.
I won't be too deliberate before reading it, but it was important for me to say it, or rather, to print it. When, for example, before starting a movie, you read "comedy" or "horror" in the description, then you will subconsciously look for these moments and, perhaps, even laugh, mentally thinking that this is a comedy, somewhere it must be funny. Personally, if I say it about myself, I always look at comedies as dramas, in my opinion, tragedies are more concentrated in them than in the tragedies themselves.
The purpose of the book is not to fill in the text, but against graphomancy, so the volume of the book is planned to be small.
I try to follow my own internal rules, which I have deduced for myself: texts should not be corrected much after the first manuscript, and it is better not to do this at all, because if you start correcting them, you can polish them to a perfect, smooth state, which will make the book taste disappear.
I can not say that this reading will be pleasant for you, like any medicine, it is not always delicious, but sometimes we need to take a cold shower to look around, look at ourselves and our thoughts. One big chapter is devotedto practical recommendations, and the next, which is called the Manifesto of Life – is all the same, but in an allegorical form and in the form of metaphors.

Childhood
A time of carefree times, when we look at the world with hope, when we want to grow up faster and become an adult, sometimes it turns into an obsession.
Everyone's childhood, of course, was different: cruel, kind, hungry, boring, fun, and so on. But, having grown up, we perceive all our events in our lives from the point of view of the image that we formed in childhood. An adult is the same child, only the clothing size is different.
Of course, we change, but our perceptions of life are formed in childhood. An adult develops stereotypes that fundamentally distinguish him from a child, so maintaining a child's simplicity and even sometimes naivety will help to look at things impartially, more rationally than an adult.
Keep your child in the shower forever.
It isvery sad when a person is deprived of a childhood, it is a big trauma for the child, and in later life it is very difficult to adapt to the events that are taking place. Because, despite the fact that it is customary to say that a person is the blacksmith of his own happiness, there are events that are either difficult or simply almost impossible to influence. In such cases, it is necessary to have the plasticity of the psyche in order to survive or adapt.
Про PTSD[1 - Посттравматическое стрессовое расстройство (ПТСР) – тяжёлое психическое состояние, возникающее в результате единичного или повторяющихся событий, оказывающих сильное негативное воздействие на психику индивида.] we'll talk about PTSD in a separate book. I won't write it, but we'll talk. It is generally assumed that only war veterans suffer from it, which I do not agree with at all, no one agrees with this at all, it's just that these notorious adult stereotypes have worked again.
In childhood, a person receives a large number of psychological traumas, which are perceived even more strongly in a state of fragile, childish psyche. As a result of adult life, a person is formed in spite of or fearing their childhood fears and psychological traumas. It depends of course on the type of psyche, someone becomes stronger from problems, who becomes vulnerable. Everything is different, individual.
A person lives in a world where eight billion people live in addition to him[2 - По состоянию на июнь 2024 года, население Земли составляет 8,108 миллиарда человек.], and they all create their own world, product, thoughts, actions, which in turn affect other participants in life.
It is impossible not to remember that people are affected by animals, events that occur in a random or deliberate way. Everything affects one person, and the person himself also affects others.
18 plus. Beginning
ЧHumanism has a figurative type of thinking, and those phrases that take root or are used more often have more informational weight. But sometimes a goat is just an animal, quite funny and cute, which gives wool, quite valuable, and goats give moloko.
18 plus – this means that we are adults or it's time for us to become adults.
Andit is interesting that in different epochs, children moved to the rank of adults quite early. Now even twenty-five-year-olds are considered young, that is, they should be treated like children. Modern man matures very slowly. The reasonfor this is the ess technological program, which contributes to the degeneration of masculinity and the presence of physical strength.
Childhood is avery important stage in a person's life, and we will return to it from time to time.Now we will go straight to the age of majority. Although there is a legal age of majority here, there is a subjective one, when someone grows up faster, someone doesnot grow up at all.
In different countries, the legal age of majority is quite wide in the spectrum.
The age at which we begin to be fully responsible for our actions and actions, although in certain situations criminal liability may occur in the Russian Federation from the age of 14 and 16, respectively, depending on the severity of the crime.
School ends around the age of 17, and at this age people often enter adulthood, which is full of surprises. It often happens that this adult life begins to attract with its vices more than the opportunity to develop fully.
It all depends on who you're on the boat with at the time. If your friends are right, you will become right, and vice versa, if the opposite, although everything again depends on the person's personality.
We tend to look for causes outside more often than in ourselves inside. Although many questions have answers within us.
– Grown-ups, there they are, grown-ups, – we used to say when we were kids, listing grown-ups as if they were aliens with their own laws and possibilities.
– They know how to buy toys, and someone gives them money, probably some others who are generally magicians, – something like this we could think very young, considering adults, paying attention to their superpowers…
So we became adults, or rather, adults… So…? Where are our superpowers?
Most people's lives are monotonous to the point of ugliness, in the good sense of the word. House, family, children, hospital, yard, garage, plot, compote, cinema.
People almost all eat the same food, and many have the same life, despite the variety of pants. Although the color differentiation of pants[3 - Цветовая дифференциация штанов – в художественном фильме «Кин-дза-дза!» система, позволяющая жителям планеты Плюк демонстрировать свой социальный статус.], of course, can change a person's life, but only slightly.

Birthdays and holidays in general
Birthdays that are better and more correctly called "the anniversary of birth in the form of a newborn", someone notes, someone does not note.

Diseases, what to do with them?
If you have any pain, you need to go to the doctors, and even if it does not hurt, and you are plus forty years old, then you need to be checked from time to time.
МImaginary diseases, which are the most dangerous and insidious, do not show themselves externally, symptoms appear more often only in the extreme stages of the disease, so preventive examinations should be done from time to time, at least once a year, well, at least once every two years. Or at leastevery five years in full.
You should take the medications that you have been prescribed.

To marry or not to marry?
Such a question, it can not be said that it is somehow unusual or unique for any person. Here you can answer with the phrase of Socrates:"If you get a good wife, you will become happy, if you get a bad one, you will become a philosopher."
I will not comment on this proverb, but you should always strive to start a family, this applies to both girls and boys. It's fun to live alone young, but old age comes, and not always in pleasant forms.
Getting married or getting married is necessary to meet old age together. You need to look for just such a person with whom there is something to talk about.
However,it must be admitted that the highly developed egocentrism of modern man has changed a lot in our society, most importantly, of course, in the institution of the family. But it really did exist before. The family is a whole state, with its own laws and crimes, which must be respected and avoided, depending on the definition.
Withta, it comes unnoticed, someone immediately, after any illness, that it is very difficult or almost impossible to recover in age. It is rare for people to maintain working capacity, as in their youth, but age is not an appetite, if it starts, it does not go back.
Look for your person from the heart, external beauty is lapped, and after some time you will begin to communicate with souls, not bodies.

Don't be jealous
There are many commandments, but envy is one of the most terrible, because it is the locomotive and idea of other crimes. There will always be someone who lives better than you, always. So it's a dead end idea to be envious.
Stop looking at others with a sense of envy, and when they say "white" or "black" envy, it's still envy. Envy eats up happiness, so they say simply: if you want to be happy, be happy. Try to notice people around you who are more unhappy than you are, and, of course, help them whenever possible. But compared to them, you may feel happier.
Most importantly, do not forget that you are a person, and not one who sets out to find the best place for yourself.

Friends
There's no point in compressing everything you've said about friends in this chapter right now. The idea of this book was to say something else that I think is very important.
You can have thousands of friends, but no one will conditionally congratulate you on your birthday. Although I have already described about the birthday, and I have my own attitude to it. In general, there is no need to confuse friends and acquaintances.
Otherpeople who are not related can sometimes be much closer to you than relatives. Although, rather, it even happens more often. And there's nothing wrong or negative about it. The fact is that the probability that there is a person among your relatives who is closer to you inmentality is very small. Navernoe, you may now recall that your character was often compared to an uncle or grandfather, a grandmother who lives in another city or is no longer alive. The probability of similarity in the character of the closest first-line relatives is very small, and it is much easier to find your own person, like-minded person in society.
And in fact, people with the same mindset or lifestyle are more likely to find a common language, they are attracted to each other, they are interested in each other.
If they are two fishermen, then they can no longer interfere, they can always chat among themselves. But no one knows your life better than you do, so the best adviser to make any fateful decisions can only be yourself.
Therefore, all attempts to consult with a friend or girlfriend almost always lead to an unprofessional choice of position. At some points, it is better for another person to judge without nerves, since it is not his fate that is being decided, conditionally, on the other hand, he or she cannot know all the details. Therefore, it is necessary to consult, but the choice should always be yours.
It is better tomake big decisions on a fresh head, in the morning, and in general in the fresh air. In this state, a person's thinking and cognitive abilities are higher. On the street, even if it is polluted with the products of burning car fuel, it is still cleaner than home, apartment air, which is saturated with allergens, viruses and mold, and just dust, and the oxygen level is slightly higher, and the level of carbon dioxide is slightly lower.

Loneliness
It can be temporary, it can be permanent, it can be mental and physical. But from time to time, a person needs to stay in this state.
Mrir is quite large, and we are also influenced by other people, so let's say, go back to factory settings at least a little or reset the cache memory to average out the meanings and ideas in our head. The environment affects you, no matter how much you internally believe that this is not the case, we are always affected by the environment. And it's not just friends, it's even the environment, work and other moments.
When you are alone, you are alone with your thoughts, and if they are spoiled, it is quite difficult to bear, so one of the most terrible punishments in penicytic institutions is solitary confinement.
Man is a social being, and the word "being" here does not mean an insult, being means existing.

Travel
You can be everywhere not only physically, but also mentally, and no one will forbid you. A large number of tourists travel around the world, but with an absolutely empty goal – to spend the night in a hotel in some country. It's so petty that it's a shame to even talk about it.
If you really want to, do not stop yourself, and rest can be everywhere, even in the neighboring forest, rest must necessarily be by the sea – these are stereotypes. Yes, and a long road takes more effort than a trip to the country.
In life, the simpler the better. It is the personwho creates it, life, a life without duplicates.

Attitude to death
Regardless of what you do now and what you will do tomorrow, the outcome is the same, and it unites people, steals their exclusivity, which everyone in life tries to hone, express, demonstrate.
Any problem that happens to us in the course of life becomes insignificant, or rather, it ceases to matter when we are carried.
From this point of view, everything that happens becomes insignificant.
Fear of death it is present in every person, but it is different for everyone, more precisely, the degree of perception of death.
"When we feel sorry for a person after death, we actually feel sorry for ourselves," – a good friend of mine told me, to whom someone else said. I do not know the owner of the quote, please write in the comments to the book, who can remember exactly.
In general, it happens when many people come up with the same thoughts, and exactly in the wording, probably, a person's thinking is not some kind of ghostly. In fact, most people think about the same thing. Here we must return to the point about education. In what environment a person is brought up or was brought up. Because a person is brought up all his life, you can not think that this does not apply to adults.
A fuller and more correct attitude to death can be found in the Bible and other doctrines of theology.
Ince, funeral rites are man-made, and how things actually happen after death, no one knows. No one came back from there. We can roughly say about the borderline state, in which a person is between life and death for a short orvery short time, once or repeatedly.
Istarted having serious health problems before I was thirty. It was so bad, I was so weak, that I fell asleep every night with a cross in my hands. And the condition worsened and worsened, so that it was difficult to breathe, the body was weak, exhaustion was sickь. As I then thought that I would appear here and the cross in my hands would be at least. This continued for years. In about the second year of this condition, I stopped worrying and told myself what would happen. When the same traumatic feeling hits the same area ofthe brain, it stops responding. You don't care anymore.
The Japanese are much more primitive about this, they believe that you need to feel already dead or that this is inevitable, which makes you stop being afraid of it.
ЛAlthough my opinion is that there is no truth anywhere here, you need to choose a convenient state for yourself. And my deep conviction is that we do not treat life or death correctly, because we do not know exactly what life is, and even more so we do not know what deathis.
All other reflections are from the evil one, and there is a lot to say about this, no one can refute or prove it. I am still a proponent of a scientific attitude to life, and if you are not sure about something, it is better to remain silent.

Important
Don't complicate your life.

Manifesto of Life

Forgive my obsession as a writer if I want to start this metaphysical chapter with my poem "The Lonely Wanderer", written in 2028, from my collection "Seconds", Liters, 2023.

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Примечания

1
Посттравматическое стрессовое расстройство (ПТСР) – тяжёлое психическое состояние, возникающее в результате единичного или повторяющихся событий, оказывающих сильное негативное воздействие на психику индивида.

2
По состоянию на июнь 2024 года, население Земли составляет 8,108 миллиарда человек.

3
Цветовая дифференциация штанов – в художественном фильме «Кин-дза-дза!» система, позволяющая жителям планеты Плюк демонстрировать свой социальный статус.