Never Say Die
Never Say Die
Lynne Barrett-Lee
Melanie Davies
On a Saturday morning in May 1980, Melanie Bowen, a pretty fifteen year old, ran down the stairs of her parents’ home in Port Talbot, grabbed her leather jacket and crash helmet, yelled a goodbye, and then walked out of the front door into the sunshine for what was to be the last time in her life. Never Say Die is the true story of what followed…Since the motorcycle crash that left her paralysed from the chest down, Melanie's life has been one of extremes. On the down side, she has endured 5 horrific months of despair and indignity in rehabilitation, undergone a colostomy at 23, been in another serious car crash, suffered syringomyelia and the terrifying prospect of full quadriplegia, been diagnosed with breast cancer and broken several bones.On the plus side, however, she's won medals in athletics for Wales, been humbled and inspired by Falklands veterans at RAF Chessington, raised thousands for charity, become a major disability poster girl in America, dabbled with the film world and been screen tested for a movie, met the Queen, and set up her own rehabilitation charity, whose patrons include the acclaimed actor Michael Sheen, Dame Tanni Grey Thompson and former Welsh Rugby captain, Gwyn Jones.She has also, against all the odds, found lasting happiness, having fallen in love with and married the surgeon who 25 years earlier told her she would never walk again.
Never Say Die
Melanie Davies and Lynne Barrett-Lee
The True Story of An Exceptional Life
Foreword (#ulink_54269ee8-fea4-5a06-a228-36c553acb68f)
by Dame Tanni Grey-Thompson DBE
I first met Mel in the mid-1980s, when we were both competing in South Wales. Right from the start, it felt as though I had known her for years. She is one of the very few people I’ve ever met who can talk more than me! She is always positive, no matter what may be happening in her own life, and it really seems that nothing will stand in her way, mostly because Mel just won’t let it. She always shows an infectious optimism, confidence and gritty determination, even in the face of seemingly insurmountable adversity. It is that incredible stubbornness that is evident in everything she does and makes everyone around her think that they should be doing more.
For some, this book may be an uncomfortable read at times. Melanie certainly pulls no punches in describing in detail the everyday problems encountered by many wheelchair users. It is also an uplifting experience, a bit like meeting Melanie herself. It takes twenty years and a lot of heartache until she feels she has control of her life when she launches the TREAT Trust charity.
Time and again throughout the book you will find yourself wondering what else fate can throw at Melanie, and although she has had to deal with more than most, there are parts that made me laugh out loud as a fellow wheelchair user because I understand some of the experience. And what could be better than a fairytale ending to rival that of any Mills & Boon romance?
Dame Tanni Grey-Thompson DBE
November 2008
Table of Contents
Cover Page (#u4025da88-ee9e-595b-85f6-0949aabb2219)
Title Page (#udff55209-2a57-5771-a802-10e0cdfbb51c)
Foreword (#ued042ca4-592a-5328-b984-8e1efc7b431a)
Part One (#u8093389c-dce1-5d4b-b157-5826931fba05)
Chapter 1 (#u60076ca7-3eb3-5b02-baea-46939f36fb2d)
Chapter 2 (#ud1b70694-c85a-56d2-829b-8944b3c39abf)
Chapter 3 (#u7e6cbede-092e-53ca-bb97-29d79b29d411)
Chapter 4 (#uc6ac4694-ad8c-5b4d-bf71-a324ce23163e)
Chapter 5 (#u313a0824-aaee-503b-9a2b-74f883ace2cb)
Chapter 6 (#u6616d4f9-da0e-5512-beff-41d63b11a717)
Chapter 7 (#udca9f864-6753-5afa-b2a0-cefda845831e)
Chapter 8 (#uf9abd995-b19f-51bc-9010-1d92ec9e3ed6)
Chapter 9 (#uafd00871-a227-5bf2-959b-5b01fc9926c5)
Part Two (#u55f231fc-5819-5bdf-9b67-8393f4a9317f)
Chapter 10 (#ub3eabb49-4576-579e-bc5b-05194b8c6c9d)
Chapter 11 (#udf501c30-e012-5cef-b482-2d701c551ff9)
Chapter 12 (#uac5635c7-1aaf-5966-848f-5910d4e59c62)
Chapter 13 (#u9dae1f39-31a6-5979-bade-fe615c13cf6f)
Chapter 14 (#u9681b383-0272-5785-8bdb-d9ed09aad5ce)
Chapter 15 (#u0d3af7df-80f0-5eb6-8806-e538afffa1b2)
Chapter 16 (#u6e970c31-c9e1-581e-a1ee-de8eb57592cd)
Chapter 17 (#u1233b62d-8162-5ab0-b6a5-9aa6eaf0d53f)
Chapter 18 (#ueb5e6c47-d56d-5fc3-9645-e18c4f8fdca9)
Chapter 19 (#u167b8992-8142-52c7-b5cf-d4d024c910e2)
Chapter 20 (#ufd93b4a9-1970-5554-8e3c-a574ed5f5320)
Chapter 21 (#ufd301a31-ac7e-5b56-9332-ae8b5ccf5198)
Chapter 22 (#u269ef7f4-0c25-5a1d-80c8-c4167f958ec4)
Chapter 23 (#u52db3555-28bb-59ca-a34b-91fd17955992)
Chapter 24 (#u6147e75f-6b54-545d-a1c4-69577096f401)
Chapter 25 (#u6dd0bf85-0e65-560f-ac04-75584749c3d0)
Chapter 26 (#u61e1f857-3825-5043-8f71-163bf0dc9afc)
Part Three (#u59412e0e-c7bb-5183-b925-3a01eab61f48)
Chapter 27 (#u15277bbe-83e8-5791-919c-25e8f8667ad0)
Chapter 28 (#uf0eeead7-0241-5c53-a3b3-5c3e4b193f60)
Chapter 29 (#u34af43a0-ed58-525f-be1e-cc83e7c79b92)
Chapter 30 (#udf94996c-2ced-5861-b085-9148666f78d4)
Copyright (#u3200b165-3871-5863-a3dc-4cf5f4180129)
About the Publisher (#u89c1f19d-14fb-5c65-b9e2-c150a75ca17c)
Part One
chapter 1 (#ulink_482c7681-c7d5-5d40-b170-f5166d48ccb7)
I don’t know how long it was before I fully woke up, but when I did everything felt different. My eyes opened and for a moment it seemed that I must have been hit on the head. There was no pain at all but a face loomed above me. A manly face. Rugged. Unfamiliar. Concerned. I wanted him to save me, but straight away I noticed that there was worry in his expression and sadness in his eyes. He asked me a question but I didn’t really hear it. I felt terrified. Why was he looking at me that way? Then he asked me again, and this time I did hear: ‘Can you move your feet for me, sweetheart?’ I had no choice but to answer with a question of my own, because I didn’t understand what was happening. Where were they? Where were my feet and my legs? Where was the rest of my body?
He was far too old to be my boyfriend. Not only that, he was too short as well. More seriously, though, he was also too wild. He’d been in trouble with the police, he was long-term unemployed and he was unquestionably Not Good Enough for me. In summary, he was all the things that inflame anxious parents when their naïve and impressionable fourteen-year-old daughters get involved with unsuitable nineteen-year-old boys. But I was fifteen by now, and I knew better.
I was also a very good actress, as my drama teacher had often commented upon. I was good in my role as a tough biker’s girlfriend, without any need for the sort of parental concern that might impede my swaggering exterior. Yes, I loved my mum and dad—cherished them more than anything else in the world, truth be known—but to show my devotion just wouldn’t have been cool.
And my parents knew just how to deal with me. They’d been through all the stages wise parents go through and opted for what seemed the most sensible option. Having voiced their opinions and found me less than receptive, they did what was probably the best thing to do: apart from ensuring we were chaperoned wherever possible, they kept their disapproval on a non-confrontational level and simply waited for me to do what they trusted I would. Grow out of it—out of him—if left to do so.
And they’d been right to feel confident. We’d been together almost a year. I was fifteen now, and through a combination of both time and circumstance I was beginning to do exactly that. Not for any of the reasons my parents had cited. Just because I was beginning to feel the first real stirrings of…well, of not needing him any more, I suppose.
Which, in hindsight, is often the way these things work. Older guy takes younger girl under his wing, gives her attention and confidence and a proper sense of self, and so, by whichever law governs such things, makes himself redundant in the process.
But for the moment, at least, we were still together. Still a couple, despite my knowing, even then, that this state of affairs wasn’t permanent. Something testified by a still livid scar across my biceps—the result of the removal of a DIY tattoo, which my parents had organised at hideous expense.
The tattoo had read ‘Aldo’. He’d be here in half an hour. I’d better hurry up and get ready.
Lots of things happened on 10 May 1980. It being a Saturday, various matches were won and lost. In London, Trevor Brooking led West Ham to a 1-0 defeat of Arsenal, and over in the States the Houston Astros beat the Atlanta Braves at baseball. Most notably, however, an irritable Mount St Helens was having a bit of a tantrum and limbering up for what, a week later, would end 130 long years of peace and quiet and become the worst volcanic disaster in the history of the United States.
None of these, however, would have been uppermost in my mind, even had I known they were happening. All I knew—all that mattered—was that today was Saturday, which meant no school, no hassle and a trip out on the back of Aldo’s bike, a 750cc Honda. A group of us—Aldo and I, plus his friend John and my best friend Juli—were off to Porthcawl for the day.
I checked the time, spent some minutes carefully applying make-up, then scrutinised myself in the mirror. My hair was freshly washed and my face newly painted. I looked, I decided, not too bad. Not something I’d much been accustomed to thinking; unlikely as it might seem for a girl of my height (just under six feet), I was altogether more used to feeling bad about myself, the legacy of years of relentless bullying, and the accompanying stress of a change of school and thus friends. But a great deal had changed in a very short time. Much as Aldo had been key to my growing self-confidence, it had been a fashion show at school that had really inspired me. I was tall. I was slim. I had loved my moment in the spotlight. And though I wasn’t so naïve as to think that the world was my catwalk, I had begun to feel at last that I had choices.
But that was for the future. Right now, I had nothing more pressing to think about than what to wear. I grabbed jeans, a stripy T-shirt and my suede stiletto boots. I yanked them on and skipped down the stairs.
Dad was in the living room, reading the paper. I joined Mum in the kitchen. She looked up. Then up and down. Then she sighed. ‘I do wish you weren’t going out on that bike today, Mel.’
‘I’ll be fine, Mum,’ I answered, as I habitually did. She sniffed.
‘Well, your dad and I don’t like it.’
‘I know,’ I said again. ‘But I’ll be fine. Stop worrying.’
‘Just be very careful, okay?’
I thought I could hear Aldo pulling up outside. Good, I thought, kissing her cheek. No more nagging. My parents were, and have always been, amazing people: deeply loving, supportive, the very best in the whole world. But like any other teenager, I was deaf to my mother’s fears. Unaware of how often her words would chillingly revisit me, I grabbed my leather jacket from the newel post and helmet from by the door. Then I yelled a goodbye and went to greet Aldo.
Back in the early eighties, the seaside towns of Porthcawl and Port Talbot, where we lived, couldn’t have been more different. Port Talbot was dull. It felt dull, at any rate, to me and my friends. Though it nestled prettily beneath the green and brown bulk of the Emroch and Dinas mountains, Port Talbot’s equally dramatic southern skyline was a towering jungle of concrete and metal; a line of huge blast furnaces, steel gantries and grey buildings that filled the foreground of the view across Swansea Bay. The steelworks dominated the town. From the red dust that settled on every sort of surface, from windowsills to car roofs to optimistically hung washing, to the unspoken assumption that to my mind seemed universal, that being destined for the ‘works’ was the norm. I didn’t want that. I wanted more. I wanted better.
Porthcawl was better. It was different. Exciting. Though it was only a few miles east down the coast, being at Porthcawl always seemed to feel a little like being on holiday. As a child, it had been one of my favourite destinations. It was a good-time place where the sun always shone and there was always ice-cream to eat. A place where I could play on the rocks and swim in the rock pools that were left, warm and magical, by the retreating tide. It had mystery, too, in the stories of shipwrecks, and the brave derring-do of the lifeboat crew. Porthcawl had a heart that was beating, whereas Port Talbot always seemed a little like my poor dad’s chest—one big, sprawling, unhealthy wheeze.
Not that Port Talbot didn’t have a seafront of its own, but ours, Aberavon, though briefly lively during warm summer weekends, could boast little in the way of excitement. Our own funfair, Miami Beach, had always felt just like what it was—a somewhat down-at-heel reminder of a time, now long gone, when people’s expectations of holidays were much simpler. By the time I was in my teens it had been all but pulled down. In the winter months, the beach was a desolate sort of place, which skulked in the shadows of the steelworks.
Porthcawl just didn’t feel like that. Indeed, by this time it was thriving. Its own funfair, Coney Beach, was a big draw for everyone and in the summer months it was filled with throngs of day trippers, and was held in particular regard by the biking fraternity. It suited me, too. At my height, I could almost always get served in the pubs. I felt the familiar stirrings of excited anticipation in my stomach. Volcanoes could do what they liked across the globe. All that was on my young mind that Saturday morning was what a great day I had ahead.
Funny how the brain works. It hadn’t been a particularly memorable sort of day, but set against what was to follow, the rather ordinary details are still pin-sharp in my memory. We drove to the Knight’s Arms, our favourite biker pub in Porthcawl, to find it quiet—it was still early in the season. We chatted, we had some lunch, and the boys went to sit outside, while Juli and I went into the back to play pool.
Juli had been my best friend ever since my change of school had reunited us the previous year. We’d clicked before, when we were younger, and now we clicked again. Even so, we made an odd sort of pair. Where I was a jeans-and-leather-jacketed patchouli-scented rocker, Juli had embraced everything punk. She was wild about Siouxsie & the Banshees and the Sex Pistols, had hair that often looked like a multi-coloured fright wig, and augmented her wardrobe with her granny’s old frocks, which she accessorised with crazy bits of jewellery. In deference to the bike ride, I supposed, she was wearing something quite demure for her tastes—a black boiler suit—but, typically, finished off with pink shoes.
After our game of pool we went outside and sat on the guys’ bikes, while they continued to chat in the sunshine. In such undramatic and, to my older self, seemingly empty ways are whole chunks of teenage life gladly swallowed up. We’d had fun, but decided to head home when it was gone four. If Juli wasn’t home by five-thirty at the latest, she’d be for it. Her parents didn’t even know she was out on a bike. Just with me—a bad influence anyway.
‘You want to swap?’ Juli asked me as we waited for the guys.
‘Dunno,’ I said, surprised. ‘Why, do you?’
She shrugged. ‘I just thought that now I’ve tried John’s Suzuki it might be fun to take a ride on the Honda.’ She smiled at me, and suddenly I realised that she might have another agenda. Perhaps this was more about me than her. More specifically, about me and John. Though he was way out of bounds—he had a very scary girlfriend—Juli knew how much I fancied him. She also knew that despite his going steady, in private he’d intimated that he was interested in me. Was this a manoeuvre to organise things so we could spend a bit of time alone together?
But I felt—and very strongly—that that wasn’t what should happen. I shook my head. ‘No,’ I said. ‘Let’s leave things as they are.’ The most significant ‘no’ of my life, as it turned out, and even now I’m not sure why I’d felt the way I did. Later I’d come to find solace in that. However much I might have wished that what happened hadn’t happened, I was infinitely more grateful it hadn’t happened to my friend.
Aldo always rode fast. He didn’t seem to have an off switch. When we were out on our own he drove reasonably sensibly, but put him in the middle of a big group of bikers—on big bikes—and the testosterone kicked in. He went for it, always. There was never any point in telling him to slow down, let alone pointing out that with one ban for speeding already behind him they’d throw the book at him if he was caught. I tried it once, early on, and soon learned. He would simply growl at me and go faster.
But this wasn’t—hadn’t been—that sort of day. Just the four of us, two bikes, and an uneventful ride home in prospect. Why should it be otherwise? The route back was undemanding enough and the roads were, more often that not, quiet. I knew those roads well; the places where he’d let out the throttle and gun it, the corners and the straights, the scenic stretches through the burrows, the odd glimpse of sea, and the sweep of mountains that loomed to our right. Today’s journey to Porthcawl had been largely uneventful, and I had no reason to suppose the ride home would be any different.
But fate, it seemed, had other plans. Aldo lived with his parents, two brothers and dog on Golden Avenue, a part of the Aberavon beachfront. We were driving towards it now, along Princess Margaret Way, when that absolute no-no, a smaller bike, passed us. Before I’d even thought, irritably, that he probably would do so, Aldo had already given chase. The road seemed to shimmer and dance beneath the wheels. I felt the force of rushing air trying to push me backwards and gripped hard; one hand clenched around the seat strap beneath me, the other, behind me, clutching tightly to the bar. I remember feeling a bolt of proper fear now, as the road curved away into a sharp right-hand bend that took it inland, away from the seafront. This wasn’t just any old bend—it was Jeff’s bend, named after a biker who had died trying to get round it some years before. I felt the bike dip beneath me and automatically leaned with it. How bloody ridiculous, I recall myself thinking. So close to home and he has to get involved in this. Not for the first time, I silently cursed his childish male pride.
But the curse must have died on my lips at that moment because suddenly I was no longer riding pillion behind Aldo but airborne, and moving at speed. And then nothing. Only absolute silence and blackness. No thought. No sensation. Just nothing.
I don’t know how long I was out, but it soon became obvious that my blackout was only momentary, because the next thing I remember was a sound. Wherever I was—and I didn’t have a clue—there was something approaching. Something loud, something low. Pushing through the fog in my head with increasing insistence. A low rumbling sound. Getting louder.
Conscious again now, I opened my eyes, but the visor on my helmet was down so all I could see was smudged and dirty plastic. Like trying to see through a pair of grubby glasses, all I could focus on was the smudge. But the noise kept on coming. I turned my head towards it and the smudge became an outline, and then, almost as if propelled by some malevolent deity, I saw the bike, on its side, bare of driver and pillion, barrelling towards me headlight first. I heard a girl screaming. That’s not me, I remember thinking, as it hit me. That’s not me doing that. I passed out again.
In my head I went home then. At least, close to home. I was sitting beside Dad, in his ancient Morris Minor. He’d usually finished work by the end of my school day, so after the long walk to school, then home for lunch and then back, my treat was to have a lift home at the end of the day. I loved the Morris Minor. Loved sitting up front with Dad. Loved its feel, loved its warmth, loved its fusty pungent odour.
They say smell is the most strongly evocative of the senses, and, coming to again, I realised where the memory had come from. That same smell was pricking in my nostrils now.
Full consciousness returned in a rush of realisation. I touched the grass I was lying on. It was damp. There was no car. No Dad. Just the screaming. And the ground all around me soaked in—yes, that was it, that was what I could smell—it was petrol. And something else. There was a man. I squinted at him. He was waving his arms. He was wearing a brown coat and a cap and in his mouth—I gasped as I realised—was a lit cigarette. I tried to shout and felt a sudden warm wetness in my mouth. Oh God, no, I thought, watching him walking towards me. I’m going to burn—Oh, God, don’t let me burn.
But I obviously wasn’t the only one who’d seen it. The man—I didn’t know him—was quickly intercepted, and suddenly it seemed there were people all around me. But they melted away as fast as they’d arrived, as the blackness came and swallowed me again.
This time I went nowhere, and all too soon I was back on the cold ground with strangers staring down at me. The only warmth was in my mouth, but then also in my heart, as Juli’s face suddenly appeared. For a moment I felt calmer. She was here. She would help me. But she was crying and telling me to try not to move and saying sorry and holding onto my hand. I tried to tell her it wasn’t her fault but when I spoke a red mist sprayed all over my visor. Now everybody seemed to be shouting at once. ‘Internal bleeding!’ ‘What’s happening?’ ‘Where’s the ambulance got to?’ But almost immediately I realised what had happened. I’d bitten the tip off my tongue, and the warmth in my mouth was my blood.
I was grateful when the blackness claimed me this time and so, evidently, was my body, because I must have been unconscious for some time. When I next came round it was to the sound of approaching sirens. That was all I could hear now. No other sound at all. I’d retreated into a safe house somewhere in my brain, shutting the door on the horror. I knew I wouldn’t be able to keep it out for long, but I chose to remain there, hiding, and praying. Our Father, I chanted desperately in my head, who art in Heaven…
chapter 2 (#ulink_39d4d89f-a432-5e7e-b552-7f3513a7945a)
I was about to die, I decided. That was it. My body had been chopped in half in the accident and I was going to die at any moment. I don’t recall quite what I did with those thoughts at the time, but one thing became suddenly clear. That if I didn’t, I was going to get the mother of all rows off Mum and Dad. They’d been right. I’d been wrong. Whatever happened now—life or imminent death—I’d never felt more scared.
The man who had asked me to move my missing legs and feet reappeared. He was talking again. ‘Be still,’ he kept saying. ‘Try to keep very still. And don’t worry.’
I didn’t answer because by now my tongue had become swollen. I could feel a flap of it hanging free. So much blood in my mouth. I didn’t want to swallow my own blood. Someone then said something about how clever we’d been about the helmet. Juli and I had not let anyone take off my helmet. Someone—I didn’t have a clue who—had tried, but we’d both of us, ironically, been insistent about it; we’d done neck injuries in biology class the previous week. Something useful to know, but not the sort of thing I’d ever dreamt would apply to me.
Another face loomed. Another man. Another smile. ‘Hiya,’ he said. ‘We’re taking you to Neath General Hospital.’ He moved down and seemed to be feeling my legs—or at least, the place where my legs should have been. The terror flooded in again, and with it revulsion. I couldn’t see. Was he picking up bits of severed limb? But if that was the case, why wasn’t he looking disgusted? Why wasn’t everyone around me throwing up?
I tried to keep focused on what I was seeing and hearing, but the velvety blackness kept rising to engulf me, cloaking all sensation, all thought. I seemed to be almost floating above my own body, riding turbulent air, surveying my situation and, strangely, finding clarity in distance; in one single precious moment almost all became clear. This was real. It had happened. I was badly, badly damaged. My life as I’d known it was over.
The kind voice intruded and I was back in my broken body and lying on the sodden turf. He had yet another question. A strange one, to my mind. ‘Melanie,’ he was saying. ‘What’s your date of birth, love? What’s your age?’
‘I’m fifteen,’ I told him finally, my voice thick and strange. How did he know who I was?
Neath General Hospital was situated about a mile to the south of the town centre, on a steeply sloping hillside, facing west. The journey from Aberavon beachfront would, under normal circumstances, take about a quarter of an hour. What happens in the first ‘golden’ hour following an injury can have huge consequences on the outcome so it’s an important chunk of time for an accident victim.
But nobody seemed in much of a hurry. I must have blacked out again at this point because I have no memory of being loaded into the ambulance. But somehow I was in one. And so was Juli. I hadn’t a clue where Aldo and John might be—only that Juli had told me Aldo was OK.
I could hear someone talking on what must have been the radio. ‘We’re bringing in a teenager with a serious injury…’ Juli became agitated. If that was the case, then why were we travelling so slowly? No speed, no sirens, no nothing.
‘Because with a spinal injury,’ they told her when she asked, ‘smoothness is of the essence. We have to go slowly so we don’t do more damage.’ The atmosphere was tense, their words hanging heavily on the air. They seemed all too aware they had two terrified teenagers on board, and the fate of one young life in their hands.
By the time the ambulance had entered the outskirts of Neath, almost a whole hour had apparently passed. I’d spent much of it drifting in and out of sleep. I dreamed turbulent dreams. I dreamed about the princess in Arabian Nights, who’d defied her parents and fallen in love with a poor boy, with whom, despite their anger, she’d walk the beach at night. She’d been cursed by a sorcerer. He told her that if she continued to defy her parents, he’d turn the sand on the beach to knives beneath her feet. She didn’t believe him but it happened even so. Her life had been ruined. Had my life as well? Had my stubborn refusal to stop seeing Aldo brought a sorcerer’s curse upon me?
Consciousness returned as we neared the hospital. And with it, I began to feel increasingly agitated. I knew I was in big trouble. What would Mum and Dad say? Had somebody already told them what had happened? Would they be standing at the hospital entrance, waiting? Would they give me one hell of a row? For the first time in a long time I really felt my age; I was every inch a vulnerable child.
The ambulance had by now been reversed up to the entrance and the double doors opened to a hubbub of noise and activity. So many people. So much chattering and noise. So much sense of everyone knowing what they were doing. I felt almost as if I was some sort of celebrity. All this industry and attention focused solely on me. The feeling of relief was overwhelming. I heard a voice—‘On my lift’—and the next thing I knew I was lying on a hospital trolley.
I was here. I was safe. I thought I might leave them all to it and go to sleep now, but nobody around me seemed to want that. I was asked my name repeatedly, encouraged to stay conscious. The questions I’d been asked when lying on the petrol-soaked grass were all trotted out once again. Could I feel this? Could I feel that? Could I try to move my legs? But my own head was buzzing with entirely different questions. Could they please not tell my parents that the motorbike had crashed? And, most importantly, when could I go home?
When I asked, nobody seemed to have an answer for that one.
Eight miles away, in the small valley town of Pontardawe, an orthopaedic surgeon by the name of Mr R. M. Davies was finding excuses not to do the gardening. It was, he knew, a good day for gardening, and the garden, he conceded, needed doing.
Thirty-seven years old and at the peak of his career, he’d been appointed consultant surgeon at Neath General thirteen months earlier, and moved his wife and young family down from Cardiff; thirteen months during which the garden of their beautiful stone house had become more than a little overgrown.
They’d chosen their new home with care. After years of leading the nomadic lifestyle of a surgeon in training, this was finally a chance to settle down permanently. To reestablish old roots and also put down some new ones. Stability for the three children at last.
The house, which had been originally built in 1912 for himself by a local builder, was perfect for a growing family. Solid and spacious, it was set into the western slopes of the Swansea Valley, from which vantage point it enjoyed magnificent views across to the east, towards Neath, and looked down benignly on the road to the hospital; a place he’d already come to love.
But, fine though the afternoon had shaped up to be, somehow gardening didn’t much appeal. Nor, particularly, did the thought of washing his car. But the driver in him invariably won out over the gardener and, short on excuses to get out of either chore, he was busy with his sponge when the call came.
Back at the hospital, it having been agreed that my life was not in immediate danger, the on-call registrar, Mr Sam Kamal, had asked that I be taken down to X-ray for a series of films. I was by now not so much under the knife as the scissors; everything metal had to be removed, so they’d set about—literally—chopping it all off, from the studs on my precious jacket and my jeans and my T-shirt, right down to the wires in my bra.
The results of the X-rays confirmed the doctor’s fears. There was crushing and deformity to three of the vertebrae in the middle of the dorsal part of my spine. This was the reason why it continued to feel as though everything below mid-chest was missing.
This was the sort of serious accident that needed senior input. Mr Kamal had already rung and alerted his consultant, so that by the time the seriousness of the situation had been confirmed by the X-rays the man himself had dropped everything, thrown on a jacket and, his post-car-washing snooze and family supper now mere wishful thinking, was already en route to the hospital.
Being called in on nights and weekends was as much a part of life for a doctor as the nine-to-five routine, but as he never knew exactly what sort of trauma would be awaiting his attention when he got there Mr Davies did what he always did: he mentally prepared for what he might find. The situation was serious and the possibilities were many. He knew the patient was fifteen—not a lot older than Lizanne, his own daughter—but little more than that. How was she coping? Did she have any idea just how bad things were? Was there any chance that the situation might be reversible? On the basis of what he already knew he thought it unlikely, but could there be even the smallest hope? On a practical level, were the family present? Stoical? Hysterical? Expecting the unrealistic? And, as Neath Hospital served a very close-knit community, did any of the staff know the family?
He parked in his space behind the ward block at the bottom of the hospital building and hurried up to find out what was in store, little knowing that he was in exactly the right place at the right time, in ways that would only become clear decades later.
I have no memory of the first meeting I had with the man who was to go on to figure so prominently in my life. Perhaps, by that time, the staff looking after me had all but given up in their ongoing quest to keep me lucid. But my consultant apparently introduced himself and explained that he’d been warned that I’d had a serious injury to my upper back after being involved in a motorcycle accident. He said he needed to examine me himself to confirm this, and also to check that the X-rays gave him all the information he needed. But he could have been speaking to me in Swahili. By now I’d been introduced to the mesmeric joys of morphine and found them a great deal more deserving of my attention.
My parents both worked full-time at the offices of the steelworks: Mum as a shorthand typist and Dad as a clerk. Weekends were a time for catching up with chores and relaxing; so, not unusually, at the time of the crash, Mum was cleaning the house while Dad was down at his old cricket club, Cwmavon. Later, they’d planned to head down town to watch a performance by a local male voice choir.
But then the call came that would turn their arrangements on their head—both for that Saturday night and for many years to come. Ironically, it was an old Cwmavon friend of Dad’s who rang Mum. The friend lived, by what seemed another remarkable coincidence, on the corner where the crash had happened. She had witnessed the accident, and established my involvement. I’d had a bit of an accident, she informed Mum, and was about to be taken by ambulance to Neath General Hospital, ‘just to make sure nothing’s wrong’. My mother was obviously shocked and concerned, but reassured to some extent by what the woman said. She went upstairs to get ready to go to the hospital, reasoning that the cricket would just about be finished, so by the time she’d got changed Dad would be home and they could go together.
Neither was in any way prepared for the gravity of the situation that would greet them.
By the time Mr Davies had finished his examination, however, my parents—who had arrived not long after I had—had been advised of the reality by Mr Kamal, and were now waiting to speak to him, desperate for news. News it was his task, as my consultant, to give them, however sad or unpleasant that task was going to be.
He found them outside the resuscitation room, standing stiffly in the corridor, obviously anxious to hear something but at the same time fearful of what that something might be. They were frozen with fear but still clinging to hope, and my father found it in the sudden realisation that here stood a man he held in high regard. Mr Davies was his beloved rugby club’s honorary surgeon, a young man who’d done great things with injured Aberavon players. Surely he could do the same for his daughter?
For Mike Davies, however, the feeling wasn’t mutual. No doctor wants to find himself too close to a patient. Detachment and clear-headed thinking are too important for emotional involvement ever to be a good thing, particularly where serious injury is concerned. But standing before him was one of his fellow rugby club stalwarts. A man with a pretty fifteen-year-old only daughter who’d suffered the most appalling catastrophe, and whose future (all their futures) had, bar some improbable miracle, been utterly turned upside down.
It seemed a member of staff did know this particular family. He just wished it didn’t have to be him.
Even so, the task at hand was to be honest and realistic with these two distressed people and, as delivering bad news was best not done standing, he invited my parents to go into the sister’s office and sit down. He began with the best part—that my life wasn’t in immediate danger—but said that the injury to my spine would probably take a few days to declare its intentions, as it were. His assessment of my prospects was not encouraging, sadly; they would need to prepare themselves for the real possibility that I would spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair. He would also need to operate to stabilise my back, to avoid a progressive deformity. If, as he expected, I would have to spend many months in hospital, a stable back would make rehabilitation easier. The only glimmer of light he could offer that day was that should the unexpected happen and there be an improvement in function, we would see it in the next forty-eight hours.
For my parents, this would be the hardest two days of their lives.
For me, however, things were almost too surreal to register. I would come to terms, in some ways, in the days that were to follow, but mostly my youth and optimism would win out. It would be another three weeks before reality bit and the stuffing would be knocked out of me.
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Lynne Barrett-Lee
Melanie Davies
On a Saturday morning in May 1980, Melanie Bowen, a pretty fifteen year old, ran down the stairs of her parents’ home in Port Talbot, grabbed her leather jacket and crash helmet, yelled a goodbye, and then walked out of the front door into the sunshine for what was to be the last time in her life. Never Say Die is the true story of what followed…Since the motorcycle crash that left her paralysed from the chest down, Melanie's life has been one of extremes. On the down side, she has endured 5 horrific months of despair and indignity in rehabilitation, undergone a colostomy at 23, been in another serious car crash, suffered syringomyelia and the terrifying prospect of full quadriplegia, been diagnosed with breast cancer and broken several bones.On the plus side, however, she's won medals in athletics for Wales, been humbled and inspired by Falklands veterans at RAF Chessington, raised thousands for charity, become a major disability poster girl in America, dabbled with the film world and been screen tested for a movie, met the Queen, and set up her own rehabilitation charity, whose patrons include the acclaimed actor Michael Sheen, Dame Tanni Grey Thompson and former Welsh Rugby captain, Gwyn Jones.She has also, against all the odds, found lasting happiness, having fallen in love with and married the surgeon who 25 years earlier told her she would never walk again.
Never Say Die
Melanie Davies and Lynne Barrett-Lee
The True Story of An Exceptional Life
Foreword (#ulink_54269ee8-fea4-5a06-a228-36c553acb68f)
by Dame Tanni Grey-Thompson DBE
I first met Mel in the mid-1980s, when we were both competing in South Wales. Right from the start, it felt as though I had known her for years. She is one of the very few people I’ve ever met who can talk more than me! She is always positive, no matter what may be happening in her own life, and it really seems that nothing will stand in her way, mostly because Mel just won’t let it. She always shows an infectious optimism, confidence and gritty determination, even in the face of seemingly insurmountable adversity. It is that incredible stubbornness that is evident in everything she does and makes everyone around her think that they should be doing more.
For some, this book may be an uncomfortable read at times. Melanie certainly pulls no punches in describing in detail the everyday problems encountered by many wheelchair users. It is also an uplifting experience, a bit like meeting Melanie herself. It takes twenty years and a lot of heartache until she feels she has control of her life when she launches the TREAT Trust charity.
Time and again throughout the book you will find yourself wondering what else fate can throw at Melanie, and although she has had to deal with more than most, there are parts that made me laugh out loud as a fellow wheelchair user because I understand some of the experience. And what could be better than a fairytale ending to rival that of any Mills & Boon romance?
Dame Tanni Grey-Thompson DBE
November 2008
Table of Contents
Cover Page (#u4025da88-ee9e-595b-85f6-0949aabb2219)
Title Page (#udff55209-2a57-5771-a802-10e0cdfbb51c)
Foreword (#ued042ca4-592a-5328-b984-8e1efc7b431a)
Part One (#u8093389c-dce1-5d4b-b157-5826931fba05)
Chapter 1 (#u60076ca7-3eb3-5b02-baea-46939f36fb2d)
Chapter 2 (#ud1b70694-c85a-56d2-829b-8944b3c39abf)
Chapter 3 (#u7e6cbede-092e-53ca-bb97-29d79b29d411)
Chapter 4 (#uc6ac4694-ad8c-5b4d-bf71-a324ce23163e)
Chapter 5 (#u313a0824-aaee-503b-9a2b-74f883ace2cb)
Chapter 6 (#u6616d4f9-da0e-5512-beff-41d63b11a717)
Chapter 7 (#udca9f864-6753-5afa-b2a0-cefda845831e)
Chapter 8 (#uf9abd995-b19f-51bc-9010-1d92ec9e3ed6)
Chapter 9 (#uafd00871-a227-5bf2-959b-5b01fc9926c5)
Part Two (#u55f231fc-5819-5bdf-9b67-8393f4a9317f)
Chapter 10 (#ub3eabb49-4576-579e-bc5b-05194b8c6c9d)
Chapter 11 (#udf501c30-e012-5cef-b482-2d701c551ff9)
Chapter 12 (#uac5635c7-1aaf-5966-848f-5910d4e59c62)
Chapter 13 (#u9dae1f39-31a6-5979-bade-fe615c13cf6f)
Chapter 14 (#u9681b383-0272-5785-8bdb-d9ed09aad5ce)
Chapter 15 (#u0d3af7df-80f0-5eb6-8806-e538afffa1b2)
Chapter 16 (#u6e970c31-c9e1-581e-a1ee-de8eb57592cd)
Chapter 17 (#u1233b62d-8162-5ab0-b6a5-9aa6eaf0d53f)
Chapter 18 (#ueb5e6c47-d56d-5fc3-9645-e18c4f8fdca9)
Chapter 19 (#u167b8992-8142-52c7-b5cf-d4d024c910e2)
Chapter 20 (#ufd93b4a9-1970-5554-8e3c-a574ed5f5320)
Chapter 21 (#ufd301a31-ac7e-5b56-9332-ae8b5ccf5198)
Chapter 22 (#u269ef7f4-0c25-5a1d-80c8-c4167f958ec4)
Chapter 23 (#u52db3555-28bb-59ca-a34b-91fd17955992)
Chapter 24 (#u6147e75f-6b54-545d-a1c4-69577096f401)
Chapter 25 (#u6dd0bf85-0e65-560f-ac04-75584749c3d0)
Chapter 26 (#u61e1f857-3825-5043-8f71-163bf0dc9afc)
Part Three (#u59412e0e-c7bb-5183-b925-3a01eab61f48)
Chapter 27 (#u15277bbe-83e8-5791-919c-25e8f8667ad0)
Chapter 28 (#uf0eeead7-0241-5c53-a3b3-5c3e4b193f60)
Chapter 29 (#u34af43a0-ed58-525f-be1e-cc83e7c79b92)
Chapter 30 (#udf94996c-2ced-5861-b085-9148666f78d4)
Copyright (#u3200b165-3871-5863-a3dc-4cf5f4180129)
About the Publisher (#u89c1f19d-14fb-5c65-b9e2-c150a75ca17c)
Part One
chapter 1 (#ulink_482c7681-c7d5-5d40-b170-f5166d48ccb7)
I don’t know how long it was before I fully woke up, but when I did everything felt different. My eyes opened and for a moment it seemed that I must have been hit on the head. There was no pain at all but a face loomed above me. A manly face. Rugged. Unfamiliar. Concerned. I wanted him to save me, but straight away I noticed that there was worry in his expression and sadness in his eyes. He asked me a question but I didn’t really hear it. I felt terrified. Why was he looking at me that way? Then he asked me again, and this time I did hear: ‘Can you move your feet for me, sweetheart?’ I had no choice but to answer with a question of my own, because I didn’t understand what was happening. Where were they? Where were my feet and my legs? Where was the rest of my body?
He was far too old to be my boyfriend. Not only that, he was too short as well. More seriously, though, he was also too wild. He’d been in trouble with the police, he was long-term unemployed and he was unquestionably Not Good Enough for me. In summary, he was all the things that inflame anxious parents when their naïve and impressionable fourteen-year-old daughters get involved with unsuitable nineteen-year-old boys. But I was fifteen by now, and I knew better.
I was also a very good actress, as my drama teacher had often commented upon. I was good in my role as a tough biker’s girlfriend, without any need for the sort of parental concern that might impede my swaggering exterior. Yes, I loved my mum and dad—cherished them more than anything else in the world, truth be known—but to show my devotion just wouldn’t have been cool.
And my parents knew just how to deal with me. They’d been through all the stages wise parents go through and opted for what seemed the most sensible option. Having voiced their opinions and found me less than receptive, they did what was probably the best thing to do: apart from ensuring we were chaperoned wherever possible, they kept their disapproval on a non-confrontational level and simply waited for me to do what they trusted I would. Grow out of it—out of him—if left to do so.
And they’d been right to feel confident. We’d been together almost a year. I was fifteen now, and through a combination of both time and circumstance I was beginning to do exactly that. Not for any of the reasons my parents had cited. Just because I was beginning to feel the first real stirrings of…well, of not needing him any more, I suppose.
Which, in hindsight, is often the way these things work. Older guy takes younger girl under his wing, gives her attention and confidence and a proper sense of self, and so, by whichever law governs such things, makes himself redundant in the process.
But for the moment, at least, we were still together. Still a couple, despite my knowing, even then, that this state of affairs wasn’t permanent. Something testified by a still livid scar across my biceps—the result of the removal of a DIY tattoo, which my parents had organised at hideous expense.
The tattoo had read ‘Aldo’. He’d be here in half an hour. I’d better hurry up and get ready.
Lots of things happened on 10 May 1980. It being a Saturday, various matches were won and lost. In London, Trevor Brooking led West Ham to a 1-0 defeat of Arsenal, and over in the States the Houston Astros beat the Atlanta Braves at baseball. Most notably, however, an irritable Mount St Helens was having a bit of a tantrum and limbering up for what, a week later, would end 130 long years of peace and quiet and become the worst volcanic disaster in the history of the United States.
None of these, however, would have been uppermost in my mind, even had I known they were happening. All I knew—all that mattered—was that today was Saturday, which meant no school, no hassle and a trip out on the back of Aldo’s bike, a 750cc Honda. A group of us—Aldo and I, plus his friend John and my best friend Juli—were off to Porthcawl for the day.
I checked the time, spent some minutes carefully applying make-up, then scrutinised myself in the mirror. My hair was freshly washed and my face newly painted. I looked, I decided, not too bad. Not something I’d much been accustomed to thinking; unlikely as it might seem for a girl of my height (just under six feet), I was altogether more used to feeling bad about myself, the legacy of years of relentless bullying, and the accompanying stress of a change of school and thus friends. But a great deal had changed in a very short time. Much as Aldo had been key to my growing self-confidence, it had been a fashion show at school that had really inspired me. I was tall. I was slim. I had loved my moment in the spotlight. And though I wasn’t so naïve as to think that the world was my catwalk, I had begun to feel at last that I had choices.
But that was for the future. Right now, I had nothing more pressing to think about than what to wear. I grabbed jeans, a stripy T-shirt and my suede stiletto boots. I yanked them on and skipped down the stairs.
Dad was in the living room, reading the paper. I joined Mum in the kitchen. She looked up. Then up and down. Then she sighed. ‘I do wish you weren’t going out on that bike today, Mel.’
‘I’ll be fine, Mum,’ I answered, as I habitually did. She sniffed.
‘Well, your dad and I don’t like it.’
‘I know,’ I said again. ‘But I’ll be fine. Stop worrying.’
‘Just be very careful, okay?’
I thought I could hear Aldo pulling up outside. Good, I thought, kissing her cheek. No more nagging. My parents were, and have always been, amazing people: deeply loving, supportive, the very best in the whole world. But like any other teenager, I was deaf to my mother’s fears. Unaware of how often her words would chillingly revisit me, I grabbed my leather jacket from the newel post and helmet from by the door. Then I yelled a goodbye and went to greet Aldo.
Back in the early eighties, the seaside towns of Porthcawl and Port Talbot, where we lived, couldn’t have been more different. Port Talbot was dull. It felt dull, at any rate, to me and my friends. Though it nestled prettily beneath the green and brown bulk of the Emroch and Dinas mountains, Port Talbot’s equally dramatic southern skyline was a towering jungle of concrete and metal; a line of huge blast furnaces, steel gantries and grey buildings that filled the foreground of the view across Swansea Bay. The steelworks dominated the town. From the red dust that settled on every sort of surface, from windowsills to car roofs to optimistically hung washing, to the unspoken assumption that to my mind seemed universal, that being destined for the ‘works’ was the norm. I didn’t want that. I wanted more. I wanted better.
Porthcawl was better. It was different. Exciting. Though it was only a few miles east down the coast, being at Porthcawl always seemed to feel a little like being on holiday. As a child, it had been one of my favourite destinations. It was a good-time place where the sun always shone and there was always ice-cream to eat. A place where I could play on the rocks and swim in the rock pools that were left, warm and magical, by the retreating tide. It had mystery, too, in the stories of shipwrecks, and the brave derring-do of the lifeboat crew. Porthcawl had a heart that was beating, whereas Port Talbot always seemed a little like my poor dad’s chest—one big, sprawling, unhealthy wheeze.
Not that Port Talbot didn’t have a seafront of its own, but ours, Aberavon, though briefly lively during warm summer weekends, could boast little in the way of excitement. Our own funfair, Miami Beach, had always felt just like what it was—a somewhat down-at-heel reminder of a time, now long gone, when people’s expectations of holidays were much simpler. By the time I was in my teens it had been all but pulled down. In the winter months, the beach was a desolate sort of place, which skulked in the shadows of the steelworks.
Porthcawl just didn’t feel like that. Indeed, by this time it was thriving. Its own funfair, Coney Beach, was a big draw for everyone and in the summer months it was filled with throngs of day trippers, and was held in particular regard by the biking fraternity. It suited me, too. At my height, I could almost always get served in the pubs. I felt the familiar stirrings of excited anticipation in my stomach. Volcanoes could do what they liked across the globe. All that was on my young mind that Saturday morning was what a great day I had ahead.
Funny how the brain works. It hadn’t been a particularly memorable sort of day, but set against what was to follow, the rather ordinary details are still pin-sharp in my memory. We drove to the Knight’s Arms, our favourite biker pub in Porthcawl, to find it quiet—it was still early in the season. We chatted, we had some lunch, and the boys went to sit outside, while Juli and I went into the back to play pool.
Juli had been my best friend ever since my change of school had reunited us the previous year. We’d clicked before, when we were younger, and now we clicked again. Even so, we made an odd sort of pair. Where I was a jeans-and-leather-jacketed patchouli-scented rocker, Juli had embraced everything punk. She was wild about Siouxsie & the Banshees and the Sex Pistols, had hair that often looked like a multi-coloured fright wig, and augmented her wardrobe with her granny’s old frocks, which she accessorised with crazy bits of jewellery. In deference to the bike ride, I supposed, she was wearing something quite demure for her tastes—a black boiler suit—but, typically, finished off with pink shoes.
After our game of pool we went outside and sat on the guys’ bikes, while they continued to chat in the sunshine. In such undramatic and, to my older self, seemingly empty ways are whole chunks of teenage life gladly swallowed up. We’d had fun, but decided to head home when it was gone four. If Juli wasn’t home by five-thirty at the latest, she’d be for it. Her parents didn’t even know she was out on a bike. Just with me—a bad influence anyway.
‘You want to swap?’ Juli asked me as we waited for the guys.
‘Dunno,’ I said, surprised. ‘Why, do you?’
She shrugged. ‘I just thought that now I’ve tried John’s Suzuki it might be fun to take a ride on the Honda.’ She smiled at me, and suddenly I realised that she might have another agenda. Perhaps this was more about me than her. More specifically, about me and John. Though he was way out of bounds—he had a very scary girlfriend—Juli knew how much I fancied him. She also knew that despite his going steady, in private he’d intimated that he was interested in me. Was this a manoeuvre to organise things so we could spend a bit of time alone together?
But I felt—and very strongly—that that wasn’t what should happen. I shook my head. ‘No,’ I said. ‘Let’s leave things as they are.’ The most significant ‘no’ of my life, as it turned out, and even now I’m not sure why I’d felt the way I did. Later I’d come to find solace in that. However much I might have wished that what happened hadn’t happened, I was infinitely more grateful it hadn’t happened to my friend.
Aldo always rode fast. He didn’t seem to have an off switch. When we were out on our own he drove reasonably sensibly, but put him in the middle of a big group of bikers—on big bikes—and the testosterone kicked in. He went for it, always. There was never any point in telling him to slow down, let alone pointing out that with one ban for speeding already behind him they’d throw the book at him if he was caught. I tried it once, early on, and soon learned. He would simply growl at me and go faster.
But this wasn’t—hadn’t been—that sort of day. Just the four of us, two bikes, and an uneventful ride home in prospect. Why should it be otherwise? The route back was undemanding enough and the roads were, more often that not, quiet. I knew those roads well; the places where he’d let out the throttle and gun it, the corners and the straights, the scenic stretches through the burrows, the odd glimpse of sea, and the sweep of mountains that loomed to our right. Today’s journey to Porthcawl had been largely uneventful, and I had no reason to suppose the ride home would be any different.
But fate, it seemed, had other plans. Aldo lived with his parents, two brothers and dog on Golden Avenue, a part of the Aberavon beachfront. We were driving towards it now, along Princess Margaret Way, when that absolute no-no, a smaller bike, passed us. Before I’d even thought, irritably, that he probably would do so, Aldo had already given chase. The road seemed to shimmer and dance beneath the wheels. I felt the force of rushing air trying to push me backwards and gripped hard; one hand clenched around the seat strap beneath me, the other, behind me, clutching tightly to the bar. I remember feeling a bolt of proper fear now, as the road curved away into a sharp right-hand bend that took it inland, away from the seafront. This wasn’t just any old bend—it was Jeff’s bend, named after a biker who had died trying to get round it some years before. I felt the bike dip beneath me and automatically leaned with it. How bloody ridiculous, I recall myself thinking. So close to home and he has to get involved in this. Not for the first time, I silently cursed his childish male pride.
But the curse must have died on my lips at that moment because suddenly I was no longer riding pillion behind Aldo but airborne, and moving at speed. And then nothing. Only absolute silence and blackness. No thought. No sensation. Just nothing.
I don’t know how long I was out, but it soon became obvious that my blackout was only momentary, because the next thing I remember was a sound. Wherever I was—and I didn’t have a clue—there was something approaching. Something loud, something low. Pushing through the fog in my head with increasing insistence. A low rumbling sound. Getting louder.
Conscious again now, I opened my eyes, but the visor on my helmet was down so all I could see was smudged and dirty plastic. Like trying to see through a pair of grubby glasses, all I could focus on was the smudge. But the noise kept on coming. I turned my head towards it and the smudge became an outline, and then, almost as if propelled by some malevolent deity, I saw the bike, on its side, bare of driver and pillion, barrelling towards me headlight first. I heard a girl screaming. That’s not me, I remember thinking, as it hit me. That’s not me doing that. I passed out again.
In my head I went home then. At least, close to home. I was sitting beside Dad, in his ancient Morris Minor. He’d usually finished work by the end of my school day, so after the long walk to school, then home for lunch and then back, my treat was to have a lift home at the end of the day. I loved the Morris Minor. Loved sitting up front with Dad. Loved its feel, loved its warmth, loved its fusty pungent odour.
They say smell is the most strongly evocative of the senses, and, coming to again, I realised where the memory had come from. That same smell was pricking in my nostrils now.
Full consciousness returned in a rush of realisation. I touched the grass I was lying on. It was damp. There was no car. No Dad. Just the screaming. And the ground all around me soaked in—yes, that was it, that was what I could smell—it was petrol. And something else. There was a man. I squinted at him. He was waving his arms. He was wearing a brown coat and a cap and in his mouth—I gasped as I realised—was a lit cigarette. I tried to shout and felt a sudden warm wetness in my mouth. Oh God, no, I thought, watching him walking towards me. I’m going to burn—Oh, God, don’t let me burn.
But I obviously wasn’t the only one who’d seen it. The man—I didn’t know him—was quickly intercepted, and suddenly it seemed there were people all around me. But they melted away as fast as they’d arrived, as the blackness came and swallowed me again.
This time I went nowhere, and all too soon I was back on the cold ground with strangers staring down at me. The only warmth was in my mouth, but then also in my heart, as Juli’s face suddenly appeared. For a moment I felt calmer. She was here. She would help me. But she was crying and telling me to try not to move and saying sorry and holding onto my hand. I tried to tell her it wasn’t her fault but when I spoke a red mist sprayed all over my visor. Now everybody seemed to be shouting at once. ‘Internal bleeding!’ ‘What’s happening?’ ‘Where’s the ambulance got to?’ But almost immediately I realised what had happened. I’d bitten the tip off my tongue, and the warmth in my mouth was my blood.
I was grateful when the blackness claimed me this time and so, evidently, was my body, because I must have been unconscious for some time. When I next came round it was to the sound of approaching sirens. That was all I could hear now. No other sound at all. I’d retreated into a safe house somewhere in my brain, shutting the door on the horror. I knew I wouldn’t be able to keep it out for long, but I chose to remain there, hiding, and praying. Our Father, I chanted desperately in my head, who art in Heaven…
chapter 2 (#ulink_39d4d89f-a432-5e7e-b552-7f3513a7945a)
I was about to die, I decided. That was it. My body had been chopped in half in the accident and I was going to die at any moment. I don’t recall quite what I did with those thoughts at the time, but one thing became suddenly clear. That if I didn’t, I was going to get the mother of all rows off Mum and Dad. They’d been right. I’d been wrong. Whatever happened now—life or imminent death—I’d never felt more scared.
The man who had asked me to move my missing legs and feet reappeared. He was talking again. ‘Be still,’ he kept saying. ‘Try to keep very still. And don’t worry.’
I didn’t answer because by now my tongue had become swollen. I could feel a flap of it hanging free. So much blood in my mouth. I didn’t want to swallow my own blood. Someone then said something about how clever we’d been about the helmet. Juli and I had not let anyone take off my helmet. Someone—I didn’t have a clue who—had tried, but we’d both of us, ironically, been insistent about it; we’d done neck injuries in biology class the previous week. Something useful to know, but not the sort of thing I’d ever dreamt would apply to me.
Another face loomed. Another man. Another smile. ‘Hiya,’ he said. ‘We’re taking you to Neath General Hospital.’ He moved down and seemed to be feeling my legs—or at least, the place where my legs should have been. The terror flooded in again, and with it revulsion. I couldn’t see. Was he picking up bits of severed limb? But if that was the case, why wasn’t he looking disgusted? Why wasn’t everyone around me throwing up?
I tried to keep focused on what I was seeing and hearing, but the velvety blackness kept rising to engulf me, cloaking all sensation, all thought. I seemed to be almost floating above my own body, riding turbulent air, surveying my situation and, strangely, finding clarity in distance; in one single precious moment almost all became clear. This was real. It had happened. I was badly, badly damaged. My life as I’d known it was over.
The kind voice intruded and I was back in my broken body and lying on the sodden turf. He had yet another question. A strange one, to my mind. ‘Melanie,’ he was saying. ‘What’s your date of birth, love? What’s your age?’
‘I’m fifteen,’ I told him finally, my voice thick and strange. How did he know who I was?
Neath General Hospital was situated about a mile to the south of the town centre, on a steeply sloping hillside, facing west. The journey from Aberavon beachfront would, under normal circumstances, take about a quarter of an hour. What happens in the first ‘golden’ hour following an injury can have huge consequences on the outcome so it’s an important chunk of time for an accident victim.
But nobody seemed in much of a hurry. I must have blacked out again at this point because I have no memory of being loaded into the ambulance. But somehow I was in one. And so was Juli. I hadn’t a clue where Aldo and John might be—only that Juli had told me Aldo was OK.
I could hear someone talking on what must have been the radio. ‘We’re bringing in a teenager with a serious injury…’ Juli became agitated. If that was the case, then why were we travelling so slowly? No speed, no sirens, no nothing.
‘Because with a spinal injury,’ they told her when she asked, ‘smoothness is of the essence. We have to go slowly so we don’t do more damage.’ The atmosphere was tense, their words hanging heavily on the air. They seemed all too aware they had two terrified teenagers on board, and the fate of one young life in their hands.
By the time the ambulance had entered the outskirts of Neath, almost a whole hour had apparently passed. I’d spent much of it drifting in and out of sleep. I dreamed turbulent dreams. I dreamed about the princess in Arabian Nights, who’d defied her parents and fallen in love with a poor boy, with whom, despite their anger, she’d walk the beach at night. She’d been cursed by a sorcerer. He told her that if she continued to defy her parents, he’d turn the sand on the beach to knives beneath her feet. She didn’t believe him but it happened even so. Her life had been ruined. Had my life as well? Had my stubborn refusal to stop seeing Aldo brought a sorcerer’s curse upon me?
Consciousness returned as we neared the hospital. And with it, I began to feel increasingly agitated. I knew I was in big trouble. What would Mum and Dad say? Had somebody already told them what had happened? Would they be standing at the hospital entrance, waiting? Would they give me one hell of a row? For the first time in a long time I really felt my age; I was every inch a vulnerable child.
The ambulance had by now been reversed up to the entrance and the double doors opened to a hubbub of noise and activity. So many people. So much chattering and noise. So much sense of everyone knowing what they were doing. I felt almost as if I was some sort of celebrity. All this industry and attention focused solely on me. The feeling of relief was overwhelming. I heard a voice—‘On my lift’—and the next thing I knew I was lying on a hospital trolley.
I was here. I was safe. I thought I might leave them all to it and go to sleep now, but nobody around me seemed to want that. I was asked my name repeatedly, encouraged to stay conscious. The questions I’d been asked when lying on the petrol-soaked grass were all trotted out once again. Could I feel this? Could I feel that? Could I try to move my legs? But my own head was buzzing with entirely different questions. Could they please not tell my parents that the motorbike had crashed? And, most importantly, when could I go home?
When I asked, nobody seemed to have an answer for that one.
Eight miles away, in the small valley town of Pontardawe, an orthopaedic surgeon by the name of Mr R. M. Davies was finding excuses not to do the gardening. It was, he knew, a good day for gardening, and the garden, he conceded, needed doing.
Thirty-seven years old and at the peak of his career, he’d been appointed consultant surgeon at Neath General thirteen months earlier, and moved his wife and young family down from Cardiff; thirteen months during which the garden of their beautiful stone house had become more than a little overgrown.
They’d chosen their new home with care. After years of leading the nomadic lifestyle of a surgeon in training, this was finally a chance to settle down permanently. To reestablish old roots and also put down some new ones. Stability for the three children at last.
The house, which had been originally built in 1912 for himself by a local builder, was perfect for a growing family. Solid and spacious, it was set into the western slopes of the Swansea Valley, from which vantage point it enjoyed magnificent views across to the east, towards Neath, and looked down benignly on the road to the hospital; a place he’d already come to love.
But, fine though the afternoon had shaped up to be, somehow gardening didn’t much appeal. Nor, particularly, did the thought of washing his car. But the driver in him invariably won out over the gardener and, short on excuses to get out of either chore, he was busy with his sponge when the call came.
Back at the hospital, it having been agreed that my life was not in immediate danger, the on-call registrar, Mr Sam Kamal, had asked that I be taken down to X-ray for a series of films. I was by now not so much under the knife as the scissors; everything metal had to be removed, so they’d set about—literally—chopping it all off, from the studs on my precious jacket and my jeans and my T-shirt, right down to the wires in my bra.
The results of the X-rays confirmed the doctor’s fears. There was crushing and deformity to three of the vertebrae in the middle of the dorsal part of my spine. This was the reason why it continued to feel as though everything below mid-chest was missing.
This was the sort of serious accident that needed senior input. Mr Kamal had already rung and alerted his consultant, so that by the time the seriousness of the situation had been confirmed by the X-rays the man himself had dropped everything, thrown on a jacket and, his post-car-washing snooze and family supper now mere wishful thinking, was already en route to the hospital.
Being called in on nights and weekends was as much a part of life for a doctor as the nine-to-five routine, but as he never knew exactly what sort of trauma would be awaiting his attention when he got there Mr Davies did what he always did: he mentally prepared for what he might find. The situation was serious and the possibilities were many. He knew the patient was fifteen—not a lot older than Lizanne, his own daughter—but little more than that. How was she coping? Did she have any idea just how bad things were? Was there any chance that the situation might be reversible? On the basis of what he already knew he thought it unlikely, but could there be even the smallest hope? On a practical level, were the family present? Stoical? Hysterical? Expecting the unrealistic? And, as Neath Hospital served a very close-knit community, did any of the staff know the family?
He parked in his space behind the ward block at the bottom of the hospital building and hurried up to find out what was in store, little knowing that he was in exactly the right place at the right time, in ways that would only become clear decades later.
I have no memory of the first meeting I had with the man who was to go on to figure so prominently in my life. Perhaps, by that time, the staff looking after me had all but given up in their ongoing quest to keep me lucid. But my consultant apparently introduced himself and explained that he’d been warned that I’d had a serious injury to my upper back after being involved in a motorcycle accident. He said he needed to examine me himself to confirm this, and also to check that the X-rays gave him all the information he needed. But he could have been speaking to me in Swahili. By now I’d been introduced to the mesmeric joys of morphine and found them a great deal more deserving of my attention.
My parents both worked full-time at the offices of the steelworks: Mum as a shorthand typist and Dad as a clerk. Weekends were a time for catching up with chores and relaxing; so, not unusually, at the time of the crash, Mum was cleaning the house while Dad was down at his old cricket club, Cwmavon. Later, they’d planned to head down town to watch a performance by a local male voice choir.
But then the call came that would turn their arrangements on their head—both for that Saturday night and for many years to come. Ironically, it was an old Cwmavon friend of Dad’s who rang Mum. The friend lived, by what seemed another remarkable coincidence, on the corner where the crash had happened. She had witnessed the accident, and established my involvement. I’d had a bit of an accident, she informed Mum, and was about to be taken by ambulance to Neath General Hospital, ‘just to make sure nothing’s wrong’. My mother was obviously shocked and concerned, but reassured to some extent by what the woman said. She went upstairs to get ready to go to the hospital, reasoning that the cricket would just about be finished, so by the time she’d got changed Dad would be home and they could go together.
Neither was in any way prepared for the gravity of the situation that would greet them.
By the time Mr Davies had finished his examination, however, my parents—who had arrived not long after I had—had been advised of the reality by Mr Kamal, and were now waiting to speak to him, desperate for news. News it was his task, as my consultant, to give them, however sad or unpleasant that task was going to be.
He found them outside the resuscitation room, standing stiffly in the corridor, obviously anxious to hear something but at the same time fearful of what that something might be. They were frozen with fear but still clinging to hope, and my father found it in the sudden realisation that here stood a man he held in high regard. Mr Davies was his beloved rugby club’s honorary surgeon, a young man who’d done great things with injured Aberavon players. Surely he could do the same for his daughter?
For Mike Davies, however, the feeling wasn’t mutual. No doctor wants to find himself too close to a patient. Detachment and clear-headed thinking are too important for emotional involvement ever to be a good thing, particularly where serious injury is concerned. But standing before him was one of his fellow rugby club stalwarts. A man with a pretty fifteen-year-old only daughter who’d suffered the most appalling catastrophe, and whose future (all their futures) had, bar some improbable miracle, been utterly turned upside down.
It seemed a member of staff did know this particular family. He just wished it didn’t have to be him.
Even so, the task at hand was to be honest and realistic with these two distressed people and, as delivering bad news was best not done standing, he invited my parents to go into the sister’s office and sit down. He began with the best part—that my life wasn’t in immediate danger—but said that the injury to my spine would probably take a few days to declare its intentions, as it were. His assessment of my prospects was not encouraging, sadly; they would need to prepare themselves for the real possibility that I would spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair. He would also need to operate to stabilise my back, to avoid a progressive deformity. If, as he expected, I would have to spend many months in hospital, a stable back would make rehabilitation easier. The only glimmer of light he could offer that day was that should the unexpected happen and there be an improvement in function, we would see it in the next forty-eight hours.
For my parents, this would be the hardest two days of their lives.
For me, however, things were almost too surreal to register. I would come to terms, in some ways, in the days that were to follow, but mostly my youth and optimism would win out. It would be another three weeks before reality bit and the stuffing would be knocked out of me.
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Lynne Barrett-Lee и Melanie Davies
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Жанр: Биографии и мемуары
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Дата публикации: 28.04.2024
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О книге: On a Saturday morning in May 1980, Melanie Bowen, a pretty fifteen year old, ran down the stairs of her parents’ home in Port Talbot, grabbed her leather jacket and crash helmet, yelled a goodbye, and then walked out of the front door into the sunshine for what was to be the last time in her life. Never Say Die is the true story of what followed…Since the motorcycle crash that left her paralysed from the chest down, Melanie′s life has been one of extremes. On the down side, she has endured 5 horrific months of despair and indignity in rehabilitation, undergone a colostomy at 23, been in another serious car crash, suffered syringomyelia and the terrifying prospect of full quadriplegia, been diagnosed with breast cancer and broken several bones.On the plus side, however, she′s won medals in athletics for Wales, been humbled and inspired by Falklands veterans at RAF Chessington, raised thousands for charity, become a major disability poster girl in America, dabbled with the film world and been screen tested for a movie, met the Queen, and set up her own rehabilitation charity, whose patrons include the acclaimed actor Michael Sheen, Dame Tanni Grey Thompson and former Welsh Rugby captain, Gwyn Jones.She has also, against all the odds, found lasting happiness, having fallen in love with and married the surgeon who 25 years earlier told her she would never walk again.